June 23rd, 2017
Your apartment may be a beautiful place to live – it may be quiet, comfortable, have unmatched amenities, and a great location. But if you’re not taking advantage of one of the best reasons to live in an apartment – the lifelong friendships that form among close-knit neighbors – it can also be rather lonely. If you’ve found an apartment for rent, but are still looking for ways to introduce yourself to your new neighbors, here are a few tips to break the ice.
One of the nicest things about living in an apartment is that social encounters present themselves daily. Think about it. How many people do you run into during the normal course of your day? You see people picking up their mail, waiting for the elevator, and walking to the pool or fitness center. Potential friendships are passing you in the common areas almost constantly. Be neighborly and say “hello” as you encounter others. Better yet, introduce yourself and use what little you know about your neighbors (i.e. she’s heading for the fitness center, she must like to work out) to break the ice. Striking up a conversation about what interests others is a great way to break the ice and start meaningful friendships.
If you’re trying to break the ice, it stands to reason that you should avoid doing things that make things even frostier – say, making too much noise or coming in late all the time. Be considerate of your neighbors. Treat them how you want to be treated. Good old fashioned consideration goes a long way toward fostering lasting friendships.
Speaking of being considerate, everybody loves a willing, helpful neighbor. Be the neighbor who holds doors and elevators open for people. Be the person who treats shared amenities with respect. And, go out of your way to offer a helping hand. Got a new neighbor who just found an apartment for rent in your building? Offer to help them move in. Remember, they’re looking to make friends, too. Being helpful is a great way to break the ice together.
Now that you’ve broken the ice by being neighborly, understanding, and helpful, it’s time to jump head first into the sometimes scary waters of social interaction. Invite your newly found acquaintances over for a gathering. It doesn’t have to be formal or complicated. It could be a simple get-together for cookies and ice cream, burgers and dogs, or even just to watch a ballgame together. Don’t be afraid to have a little fun. Before long, your efforts to break ice and interact with your neighbors are sure to pay dividends.
Good luck! Gather your courage, and start simple. You’ve found a great apartment for rent, now it’s time to find some great friends.